“I belonged to a family with strong beliefs and principles. Every girl in the family was to marry at an early age. I never had an issue with it since I was aware of it for a long time now.
With this thing in mind, I never got engaged in big social groups and lead my life on the terms of my family. Soon came the day of my wedding. I had known the guy for a few months and was happy with him being my life partner. We didn’t know much about each other’s liking but were content with the choice of our family.
The initial phase
The initial months went well, as we were both new in the relationship and were getting to know everything about each other. But eventually, I realized that his life was completely different than mine.
He had big social groups and liked to attend almost every gathering. He wanted me to get introduced to all his friends and adopt his lifestyle but I had led a very different life before. I did attend a few of the parties to get introduced but later it felt like a task for me. I told my husband about my discomfort of being social and to my fortune he understood. Post that he never asked me to accompany him to a gathering.
The contradictory interests
I was happy sharing my discomfort with him but little did I know that this too would now become a new problem. My husband used to come home from work and would head for a party at night. This had become his routine and we didn’t get time for ourselves at all. I waited for him to realize this fact on his own but he never did.
I felt like he didn’t care about me and so I started getting distant from him too. My constant dissatisfaction led to big arguments on meager issues. He never understood the main cause of my temper and I too did not take it as my responsibility to tell him. As a result, we grew apart with days and there came a time when nothing worked out between us. We were almost on the verge of getting a divorce. This is when my mother-in-law put her foot down. She suggested we take up relationship counseling. Both of us decided to give ourselves one last chance.
We searched for the best marriage counseling center in the city and that’s when we came to know about Z-Edge. In no time, booked an appointment with Renu ma’am through a fellow counselor and attended it together.
We had several sessions with Renu ma’am at her center. Few of them included solo sessions and few had both of us in it. Post the first session itself my husband got to know about the main problem. When I talked to Renu ma’am, I realized it was me who was responsible for our marriage to fail.
Experiencing the benefits of counseling
She told me that it isn’t right when you hold someone else responsible for your happiness. Renu ma’am told me to discover myself and know what makes me happy. She asked me not to wait for my husband and instead advised me to invest myself in something I love doing. This way my husband’s routine would never bother me and he will be happy too. She also told Ramesh to be aware of his role as a husband.
Learning lessons the right way
It has been months post our sessions and based on the lessons learned we are holding up well. Both of us don’t depend upon each other for happiness but share it with each other. Thank you Renu ma’am for all the wisdom. You saved our marriage and helped us flourish it too. If you think your marriage has hit the rock bottom but there is still hope for it to get better, I highly advise you to take up relationship counseling at z-edge.