“Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.” 

Remember how fun and easy it was to make friends when we were kids? The only thing one had to do was to go to the playing ground or that fun hobby class. All you gotta do is exchange a smile, and the next thing is like you’ve been two non separable beings. There is no doubt that friendships are one of the most important relationships we build in our lives. But sadly, as we grow old, building this relationship becomes difficult. Seldom do we hear of bonds being formed at a later age. Why? Because as we get older and build various relationships and careers, we make major shifts in our lives, and friendship is something that always gets compromised. We are sure many of you left your best friend behind in a different city or country because you were supposed to make a crucial life choice. 

Friendships play a very crucial role in our well-being. It has been proved that the connections we build boost our sense of happiness, purpose, and belonging. Not only this, but it also reduces stress and improves self-worth and confidence. Also, friends are the ones we seek support from during difficult times. 

In the haste of our day-to-day lives, how do we ensure that the bonds we have built last, or how do we manage to build meaningful friendships? Ones that last. Here are a few tips on how you can foster your friendships no matter what the situation.

1. Be happy and content with yourself

The happier you are the more you are bound to attract good company. Also, don’t forget to be content with yourself. Friendships aren’t supposed to complete you but just add good things to your life. Have love and compassion for yourself. Only when you are filled with love will you be able to share the feeling with your loved ones.

2. Be a good listener

One of the most important factors in friendships is being a good listener. We are sure you will agree when we say that the most interesting people are the ones that ask the right questions and are eager to listen. Most of us wait for others to finish just, so they get a chance to speak their heart out. This shouldn’t be the case. Listen twice as much as you talk. Yes, that should be the ideal ratio.

3. Be optimistic

We’ll ask you a simple question: with whom would you likely spend more of your time? One who is sad and a downer or someone who is filled with positivity and upbeat. We are sure you will choose the latter. It is a proven theory that positive emotions help broaden and build relationships. Not just does it help to foster a healthy relationship with your friend but also with yourself.

4. Be you

It is true that when you be yourself, you are gifting something unique and special to the universe. Something that was missing in the world. Embrace your true self in a relationship. Have genuine and pure intentions for the other person and you will notice how your friendship flourishes. Regardless of likability, we should try our best to be our most authentic self as that is the only way to have long lasting bonds.

5. Make an effort

Perhaps the most crucial aspect of any relationship is making an effort. It does not mean going big with your gestures but just small acts that showcase you care. It could be saying something as simple as sorry and thank you. Asking them how they feel, being present for them when they need us the most, Not giving them advice but listening instead. These are small ways you can make an effort toward your friends.

6. Be a giver

Whether it’s your time or your energy, giving more than you take should be your principle.  To contribute in every possible way in a meaningful manner without expecting anything in return should be your intent. And when we say be a giver, we are not talking about materialistic things but things like giving attention, giving a chance, giving lasting care.

7. Be empathetic and respectful

Being empathetic and respectful is the best thing you can gift to your friend. To be empathetic means to be in their shoes and focusing on similarities rather than differences. Whereas being respectful is being kind and courteous towards your friend.