How will I complete the work before the deadline? When will I get promoted? How do I manage my work and social life? My younger sister earns more than me, what will society think? I want to have my own house but can’t afford it. From trivial glitches to major hurdles we are surrounded by worries throughout. Even when we manage to get past one worry, we start thinking about the next thing. And while we are giving all that we have to sail through the choppy waters, when will I attain peace? How can I bring peace to my mind ? are the questions we are often left asking ourselves.
Finding peace can be impossible to attend if we think of it as an endpoint or if we take it as a problem-free philosophy. Attaining peace of mind doesn’t imply having any problems. It is instead a process of developing a resilient mindset. One that knows how to maintain its calm even in turbulent times. Peace of mind is attending a mindset that does not let the situation control you but makes you the master of the circumstance. But how do we ace at this art? Here’s a small guide for you
Understand what triggers you:
It will be false to say that our circumstances cannot affect our mental state. But keeping a tab of what affects your temper can help you better assess the situation. Whether it is as substantial as dishonesty, or as trivial as loud chewing noise, once you understand your pet peeve, you can better communicate it, with the people around and get past it.
Accept what you are feeling:
Sometimes we are in a state of panic because we want to get rid of that ill feeling. It is important to know that the way to get past any unwanted feeling like anger and sadness is not going past it but accepting it. Accept that you are angry or sad or agitated. Once you accept the feeling your mind automatically starts finding solutions to make yourself feel better.
Journal your emotions:
A deadline that you couldn’t meet today, or the fight that you picked up with your best friend today. One mantra to tame those wild racing thoughts and feelings is journaling them. Many a time, it happens so that your thoughts are scattered everywhere and you find yourself doing nothing but going down the spiral of negativity. Write down everything that you feel. Journaling your thoughts helps greatly to align them and thus makes you feel a whole lot better.
Mindfulness means training your mind to stay in the present moment. Most of the time, we are either worried about what has happened in the past or what may happen in the future. Our day thus is full of stress. While doing so, we miss out on the opportunities that are present today. Thus practicing mindfulness is a must to attain peace of mind. It enables us to leave the worry of the past and future behind and give our best shot today.
Keep in mind that nothing is constant:
Reminding ourselves that nothing lasts forever, allows us to think that our problems are not constant. And thus allows our nerves to calm in tough times. We can never get rid of problems but if we tell ourselves that they are not here to last, we automatically instill in a moment of peace even in the most turbulent times.
Develop compassion for yourself
When stuck in hard times, we often end up being hard on ourselves. “I could have done better”, “How come did I end up here”, “I could have done it right” in those difficult times, we tend to wallow in the darkness by focusing on what is wrong with us. However, we should keep in mind that we need our best selves the most in difficult times. We need that encouragement, boost, and that pat on our back to remind ourselves that times are tough but you are enough. That’s what becomes the catalyst in getting past all the worries. When you develop enough compassion for yourself you allow your mind to be at peace with any situation.