It takes two to…
Marriages they say are made in heaven but they are managed on earth.
One gets into it with dreams in their eyes and hope in the heart.
“To walk hand in hand
Aiming the stars
To wake up to reality
And find a few scars”
The journey that began with a loving relationship often ends up with irreconcilable differences. Differences over issues like contact with relatives, financial, time spent with each other, method of parenting and the list goes on.
Many a times the differences are over nothing. In fact, the frustration of relationship masks itself and manifests as you are ignoring me, you can never do anything right, in possessiveness, at times abusiveness. Often times end up as one person succumbing to unreasonable demands of another just to keep it going.
They have practiced their side of argument so well that patterns of blame have developed. They attack each other’s vulnerable spots at vulnerable moments. This then becomes a routine and the blame game first results in indifference and then in marriage turning into a disaster.
End result is serious mental trauma and broken hearts and homes. Most difficult part is to walk up to the counsellor. However, seeking help is more effective than ignoring the problems or hoping they get better on their own.
Marriage counselling helps understand the source of conflict and the truth behind frustration. It facilitates the process of communication on neutral grounds.
Relationship Counselling helps them understand the good and bad parts of their relationship. It helps them identify their problems without blame and instead examine how things can be improved.
The ones separated emotionally by their ego and miscommunication can be brought together through these sessions. The truth of any relationship is; It takes two to break, and two to make.
The golden mean is Don’t give in, don’t give up!!
