“Everything felt stagnant for a while. Neither could I focus on my career nor on my relationship. I found myself nowhere.”
A young client from Nagpur shares his story of being vacillated between his career and relationship as he could choose only one of them to lead a steady life. What did he choose?
“Since childhood itself, going to our farmland was the best getaway for me. I admired everything about it and always wanted to invest myself in its flourishing. City life never interested me and I knew I had nothing to do with it. I never had big social groups there and had only a few friends and a partner with whom I shared everything. She knew all about me and my dreams and respected them too. But no story can be this easy.
The girl I fell in love with, was everything I ever wished for but she was a potential architect and was very ambitious about it. Both of us expected different things from life but were a centre for each other. We completed each other in every way and hence never thought of the future.
Soon came the time when a decision had to be taken. Both of us were determined and loved our life choices as much as each other. I wanted to spend my life on a farm and she couldn’t pursue her career living in one.
Both of us were in a dilemma. Neither did we wish to leave each other nor our chosen ways of life. There came a time, when none of us could function properly, neither in our relationship nor in our own tasks. We were highly depressed and no more knew what to do.
Our mutual friends suggested that we take help from a counselor. Agreeing upon it, we came to Z edge. Renu ma’am patiently heard our side of the story and helped us arrive at a decision. She asked us “which option makes you more self-reliant, staying together or your career?”.
Being with each other was definitely not the answer as one of us would have to give up on his or her dream and that wouldn’t have been a fair choice. While on the other hand, choosing our ways of life would have made us self reliant. By this, we ourselves would be the one responsible for the life chosen and there won’t be anyone to blame.
Realizing this, both of us chose to let go off each other and live our dreams. The decision was tough and took ample sessions to arrive at the same, but in the end it was the best for both.
Renu ma’am helped us take our toughest decision and we shall always take her as our life coach. Forever grateful for this organization.”