Women earning more than men is one the most common reason for divorce cases in India. Despite being in the 21st century, the number in these cases has not gone down. What might be the reason behind it? Society, the couple itself, or both?
Here is a story of one of our clients who went through the same situation in her married life.
“I was always a career-oriented woman and prioritized it the most. I loved my work and the liberty to live life on my own terms. At the age of 26, I got married to a man who was chosen by my family. Both he and his family knew I earnt more than him and they seemed quite liberal about it. Everything was okay when we were staying in a city different from his parents. We led a stable marriage and had a good work-life too. But things changed when we moved in with his family.
His parents had issues with him earning less than me. They thought it was because I earned more, I had the liberty to live life according to me. With time they indulged in every decision I made and changed my way of life completely. My husband too started believing in his parent’s views eventually and did not support me in any of my work.
Initially, both of us shared equal responsibility for the house and balanced our work lives around it. Now, however, all the responsibility of the household came on me along with the 12 hrs of corporate work. All of this was highly unfair and I couldn’t take it anymore.
Both of us used to have frequent clashes and were not at all happy with each other. Upon that the non-cooperative attitude of my in-laws towards me made things worse. I didn’t want this marriage and wanted a divorce.
Seeing me about to take an extreme step, my mother suggested I see a marriage counselor. I knew that our marriage deserved this chance and thus I went to Z edge with my husband.
Renu ma’am heard both our sides and did a session with my in-laws too. Post three to four sessions, she made them understand that it is okay for a woman to earn more than the man and that it shouldn’t be the reason for two people splitting. She asked my husband to have his own beliefs and have trust in his marriage. Renu ma’am also advised me to be considerate towards our marriage and asked me to try giving it a chance.
Today not just as a couple but as a family too, we find ourselves in a more cordial relationship. If you too are going through any such turbulence and have lost hope from your relationship, counseling can help you too.
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